Defining Success

People define success in many ways; as per their convenience. And when we try to track ourselves on how successful we are in certain field, we get highly confused. For me, there are lots of factor that contribute and exhibit the level of success we are heading at.

"Success" literally means "the accomplishment of an aim or purpose". I think any accomplishment could be evaluated in terms of emotional, mental and physical output. Some can be calculated while the others can just be felt and observed.

At every step of our life, knowingly and unknowingly, we have an ideal image of a successful person that we want to be like. At some point, if we fail to attain that image, we feel disappointed. But it is out of ignorance that we mislead ourselves. Because we are aiming the wrong aim; we are setting a wrong goal for ourselves.

Let me put this the other way round. There is no such person who can be termed as "Unsuccessful" if s/he is contributing her/his effort and time on it. If you do not devote yourself in any task; then you do not lie under the criteria to be evaluated for rating your success. It is a very simple process. According to my review on people whom I refer as successful, if you want to reach that level then 

1. you have to be fully (100%) involved in what you do.

2. you have to do your best unless you yourself are satisfied with the attained result. If you are not satisfied, redo it, take expert opinion and do not hesitate to ask for help.

3. you have to have an ability to uplift others, support others in need, share your expertise and ideas, document and share your success. 

4. you have to stop making excuses and blaming others for not achieving your part of goal.

5. you have to have both team spirit and individuality to work on your subject.

6. you have to have patience. Rejection does not mean you have failed. It just means you tried your best but someone just worked a step harder than you did. Success does not come overnight.

7. list out 5 people who would be interested and happy to help you in each task. Make sure they know that you have selected them as "Guarding Angels" and never miss giving them credit when you achieve your success.

These factors contribute to succeed our physical output, which can be evaluated as per our need. But does the success in the physical output contribute to our emotional and mental output. May be or may not be. 

The majors factors that contribute to succeed our emotional and mental output are happiness, positivism, mental peace, creativity and sound sleep. These, however, could not be measured. But it does contribute a lot in attaining physical output and having a happy and balanced life.

So many people are much focused on success at work, that they end up neglecting the most important part of their life; their family and themselves. Work is a part of life. Work involving both fun and family gives it a life and value; and that is what drives you towards success. As Albert Einstein has put it together, "Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value".

I have met a lot of people who know how to advocate themselves to show how successful they are. It is great in the field of entertainment and advertisement; but when you are dealing with critical subject matters and using their story to make personal profit for yourself; it is not a right thing to portray. 

I have also seen people who use others to reach their goal. After attaining that goal, after reaching success (as per what they say), they start picking on their supporter, bossing around, treat them badly, never give them credit for what they have done and still expect a positive response. Duh! Hilarious. If the supporters are dumb enough to support such douche-bag again, the supporters will actually not be able to succeed on attaining their own success. So, there should be a clear demarcation on your list of "Guarding Angels" and the list of people whom you want to guard as an angel.     

Success does matter and the success of the person whom you guard matters the most. When you are guarding someone for success, you should as well succeed on attaining emotional and mental output and self-satisfaction. If that is missing and you feel that your effort is being wasted then STOP. Saying "NO" to someone is not a wrong thing to do. Sometimes it makes you feel great and help you concentrate on attaining your own aim for success, giving you much more power to value yourself and your self-esteem.